Young separated men are 10 times more likely to die
by suicide than through road accident
- An estimated 2. million children live apart from
their natural parents.
- These children are statistically ten times more likely to be
abused or neglected and twice as likely to have a mental health
- 300 children go through the family law system every day.
Up to 300 children will have their fathers removed from their day to
- There is a divorce every 7 minutes in this country.
While you read this and view this image, a man somewhere is about to
throw a rope around a branch in a tree, another is attaching a hose from
his exhaust to the window of his car and yet another is about to turn
his wheel into the path of an oncoming 16 wheeler.
8 males comit suicide in Canada every day.
Whatever the reason, it's too many. If 8 whales beached it would be
front page news, broadcast all over the world, enormous money, effort
and resources would be utilized in trying to save them.
Yet in Canada we lose 8 males a day.
Why? Can we continue to accept this as normal?
We cannot, and that's why we have Dads in Distress.....
Daddy's Day at School
Her hair was up in a ponytail her favorite dress tied with a bow.
Today was Daddy's Day at school, and she couldn't wait to go.
But her mommy tried to tell her, that she probably should stay home.
Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone.
But she was not afraid; she knew just what to say.
What to tell her classmates of why he wasn't there today.
But still her mother worried, for her to face this day alone.
And that was why once again, she tried to keep her daughter home.
But the little girl went to school, eager to tell them all.
About a dad she never sees a dad who never calls.
There were daddies along the wall in back, for everyone to meet.
Children squirming impatiently, anxious in their seats.
One by one the teacher called, a student from the class.
To introduce their daddy, as seconds slowly passed.
At last the teacher called her name, every child turned to stare.
Each of them was searching, for a man who wasn't there.
"Where's her daddy at?" she heard a boy call out.
"She probably doesn't have one," another student dared to
And from somewhere near the back, she heard a daddy say,
"Looks like another deadbeat dad, too busy to waste his day."
The words did not offend her, as she smiled up at her Mom.
And looked back at her teacher, who told her to go on.
And with hands behind her back, slowly she began to speak.
And out from the mouth of a child, came words incredibly unique.
"My Daddy couldn't be here, because he lives so far away.
But I know he wishes he could be, since this is such a special day.
And though you cannot meet him, I wanted you to know.
All about my daddy, and how much he loves me so.
He loved to tell me stories he taught me to ride my bike.
He surprised me with pink roses, and taught me to fly a kite.
We used to share fudge sundaes, and ice cream in a cone.
And though you cannot see him, I'm not standing here alone.
" Cause my daddy's always with me, even though we are apart
I know because he told me, he'll forever be in my heart"
With that, her little hand reached up, and lay across her chest.
Feeling her own heartbeat, beneath her favorite dress.
And from somewhere in the crowd of dads, her mother stood in tears.
Proudly watching her daughter, who was wise beyond her years.
For she stood up for the love of a man not in her life.
Doing what was best for her, doing what was right.
And when she dropped her hand back down, staring straight into the
She finished with a voice so soft, but its message clear and loud.
"I love my daddy very much, he's my shining star.
And if he could, he'd be here, but heaven's just too far.
You see he was a fireman and died just this past year
When airplanes hit the towers and taught Americans to fear.
But sometimes when I close my eyes, it's like he never went away."
And then she closed her eyes, and saw him there that day.
And to her mother's amazement, she witnessed with surprise.
A room full of daddies and children, all starting to close their eyes.
Who knows what they saw before them, who knows what they felt inside.
Perhaps for merely a second, they saw him at her side.
"I know you 're with me Daddy," to the silence she called out.
And what happened next made believers, of those once filled with doubt.
Not one in that room could explain it, for each of their eyes had been
But there on the desk beside her, was a fragrant long-stemmed pink rose.
And a child was blessed, if only for a moment, by the love of her
shining bright star.
And given the gift of believing, that heaven is never too far
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take ... but by the
moments that take our breaths away.....
May we never under estimate the value of Daddy's everywhere.
Dads In Distress is a dedicated suEmail
for more info visit www.OttawaMensCentre.com
port group whose primary goal is to
stem the trend of suicide by father
Tel: 613-482-1112 or 613-247-9378